What I have seen in the Records is very different from what many people have been taught: there is no punishment from Source for suicide or abortion. I have never, literally never, seen judgement toward any soul for these acts. Source is unconditional love, which literally means – NO conditions. Zero. You will not go to hell. You will be understood, loved and accepted. You are not insulting God/Source. You will not be judged. There’s nothing to forgive because you didn’t do anything wrong. You may have thoughts that this is ridiculous because of the very strong opinions that humans and religions have regarding these topics. While that is a conversation all its own, it doesn’t erase the truth: Source is only unconditional love and that will always, and forever more, mean: no conditions. There is nothing you have done, are doing or will do that will make you unworthy or unlovable. Period. And the most beautiful part of all of that is that we can’t mess this up. We’ll still be worthy and lovable no matter what we do, think, say, or feel. You don’t have to agree. This will still be true. [I’ve helped many people who’ve struggled with self-judgment and judgment of others regarding these two topics. If this resonates and you’d like support, please feel free to reach out for a session. Peace is possible. There is also a free mediation on my website regarding the Life Review. Click here for the free mediation. This can be a really helpful first step toward processing these emotions so we continue to carry them.]

We are told that pregnancy is when a woman’s egg is fertilized and it grows into a baby, which is born about nine months later. This is true, but it’s not all there is about pregnancy. Pregnancy is a spiritual process where a woman acts as a spiritual anchor for an incoming soul. This is a highly spiritual practice which has lost most of it's sacredness over time. There are so many ceremonial aspects to this process. For example, the would-be mother and father could each go out into nature to connect with the incoming souls considering incarnation. Upon pregnancy, the mother could commune with the incoming soul out in nature. She could hear the baby's name (yes, soul's often have name preferences!). The process of pregnancy itself would include nurturing the body, mind and spirit throughout the entire experience. Nearing birth, a union of community as the community of guardians comes together for the passing of the torch ceremony (See Who Are Your Guardians article for more detail). This would include sacred music of the land, chants, prayers, etc. During the entirety of pregnancy, the mother's responsibility is to not only safe-keep the growing body, but to act as a constant and continuous bridge for the baby’s soul to come and go. The mother is bridging the spiritual realms to the physical world. It is a sacred act.

If you’re struggling to feel joy, then the concept of “follow your joy” may feel useless. Instead, follow your curiosities. Follow feelings of inspiration. Feel suddenly inspired to walk a different path or drive a different road? Try it. When we allow ourselves to explore curiosity and inspiration, we allow the door to joy to open more and more, since both curiosity and inspiration will naturally create those pathways. This can also help people who struggle to know or remember what they like, who they are or what they want to do. It's okay to not remember these things or to have answers. Following your curiosity or something that inspires you will lead you directly to it.

I was in the Records one day when a person's guardians approached. I could see each of them clearly and began introducing them. (My client wanted to know who they were because they didn't feel they knew them or could hear them.) I suddenly got to a lovely being who, at first glance, I deemed as one without a gender. I've met these beings before. "I am not genderless," the guardian said. "I am the perfect balance of masculine and feminine." That's when it hit me -- even God/Source (insert your preferred name here) is the perfect balance of masculine and feminine. While I already knew this, I too thought there could be a genderless option of beings. This is an impossibility. It is not the absence of gender but the completion of perfect balance between masculine and feminine. Not gender-less. Gender-full.

This is probably one the most popular questions I receive. Our guardians are made up of beings we’ve known from other lifetimes. They can be ancestors from this lifetime or another, friends, colleagues (not synonymous with our version of work colleagues) and beings we respect. When some people see or connect with their guardians, their ego may attach to how these beings appear. “I have ET guardians,” can become an egoic leverage, when in reality, they’re just family, friends and beings we respect in their natural form of when we knew them. Yes, they may look like extraterrestrials, but they’re actually in the same form you were in when you incarnated together. These are also your other forms. We each have six guardians that watch over us throughout our lifetimes. If you think of each being having its own spot in a line, there are actually nine spots available. Six are taken by those staying with us and up to an additional three can come in during various lessons. One may come in, two or three depending on the situation. And those three spaces can be occupied by various beings, not just the same three.

We choose our personal guardians before each incarnation, but they aren't immediately in charge of caring for us. During pregnancy, the mother’s guardians take charge of both the mother and the fetus. From the Records, birth is a ceremonial passage where both the mother’s guardians and the baby’s guardians are present. It’s a moment of passing the torch – where the mother’s guardians relinquish care over the baby and the baby’s guardians officially take charge.

Right before pregnancy occurs, a soul has shown interest in you as their incoming parent. (Note: This doesn’t take away your sovereign right to choose pregnancy or not.) Once pregnant, the fetus begins to form as multiplying cells. The soul enters at the very first heartbeat around seven weeks gestation. Why now? Why not at the spark of creation -- when the electrical charge occurs when an egg and sperm come together? The spark of creation is just that -- the ignition of Source creation energy creating new life. The soul lives in the heart, and if there's no heart yet, there's nowhere to live. Once the heart is built, the heartbeat is the soul coming in. From there, the soul is in and out until birth. Why is there an umbilical cord? For physical reasons, such as nourishing and keeping alive the growing baby, but it’s also a spiritual cord anchoring the soul back to the physical vessel. This spiritual umbilical cord actually remains throughout your physical life.