Attachment to Outcome - What They're Really Looking At

We're human.

And in being human, we have an ego and a soul both trying to help us. (See Soul vs Ego for more details!)

One of our human experiences includes attachment.

Attachment can occur with anything. It can be a person, place, thing, outcome, process, trajectory, path, idea, belief, etc.

The ego is a big influence for attachment. (The ego is not bad, that's not what I'm meaning here.) Ego utilizes attachment like an anchor for safety. The Soul utilizes ever-flowing wisdom as an anchor for safety.

Attachment is a part of life and isn't, in and of itself, bad; however, it can lead to stagnation, disappointment and dead-ends when we can't allow ourselves to shift out of it.

Sometimes, we think we're attached to one thing, but it's really another. We might think we're attached to the goal of motherhood, but we're actually attached to the process or avenue of how we get there.

When we're attached to a specific means to an outcome, for example, we're actually gripping too hard. Imagine holding onto a rope that represents what you believe is the best possible way for something to unfold. If you believe that this is the one and only possibility to get what you want, you'll grip it hard. When we grip something hard, it makes it immoveable.

And when life tries to move it anyway, friction is created. That friction becomes pain — like rope burn — not because the outcome is wrong, but because the grip is too tight to allow movement.

The Records will see this process and encourage you to loosen the grip. This doesn't mean that the outcome will not occur, it may or may not, but when we loosen the grip on how something manifests, we allow ALL forms of manifestation to come toward us and bring us what we want.

Most times, our manifestations come in forms we wouldn't always have guessed would be the path that worked. Our job isn't to always know the path, but to leave enough space so it can move and form around us.

The Records do not confirm if things will or will not work. They do see if a current trajectory is looking a certain way, but it's still not a guarantee as this is a co-creative universe. We are always creating with Source and others at all times.

The future can be influenced by our choices and what we choose to co-create. The Records will be clear about how to better influence different outcomes, if that's possible.

In some cases, the soul wants to go another direction or take another path to the same destination you want to go. The goal is to loosen the grip so the other paths can reveal themselves.

Struggling to allow letting go of the grip? Consider booking a session where we can focus specifically on helping you feel safe during this process, or consider joining the Mentorship program where you can also get the support of community (We've all been through it!).